Turning the Page

There is a perpetual rhythm. Things change; beginning, ending and so-on and so-forth.

In Youth/Student ministry we found ourselves in a season of change. For most of us we are celebrating graduates, welcoming new students into our ministries and for some of us wrapping-up job roles or even employment opportunities (job changes, like myself).

All of this begs the question; How do we facilitate quality, meaningful, God-honoring 'rites of passage'?

If I'm honest this has always been a struggle in my current church setting. I can't pinpoint why but have always assumed it was the hectic culture of the suburbs or the chaotic times of year that these seasons coincide with. We've tried large-scale events with all the fanfare, low-key relational events to encourage intentional community-building and everywhere in-between.

Through all of this I have made some conclusions.

1.) The 'rite-of-passage' must echo the community.
If you are a large group that thrives off of big events - live into it.
If you lead a smaller group focused in community and relationship - live into it.

2.) Lead where your strengths are, let others lead in your weaknesses.
If you aren't the M.C. type with large-scale gifts find someone who is. After all, you're not called to be the only leader for your students. Likewise, if you're the one who is always up front and captivating and your group needs a smaller event, relax, build relationship and move the focus away from the group and into the individuals.

3.) Know you're not going to please everyone.
Face it, our students are all different and respond to different events and enviornments. See point 1.

4.) It's just an event.
I've never known a single event to direct the ongoing ministry for an extended period of time. Weekly worship, small groups, fellowship, service and other things shape the ministry - not an annual event.

5.) Establish the goal - and seek it.
For us, we have promotion events coming up. We ask the community (students) the goal. they define it and they plan how to achieve it with some direction from us. To affirm and honor our graduates we had two main goals; affirmation and appreciation. One week we had the celebration which was all about them and their accomplishments, the next week we let our seniors lead and direct the entire weekly event.

Make no mistake, these 'rites of passage' are important. Don't be like many of us and get lulled by the perpetual rhythm of things. Be intentional. Lead well and finish strong. After all, for us this may be the last or first time we see some of our students.


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